Flexminded

How powerful is your MindSET?

Have you failed lately? Do you plan to??

Have you tested your limits lately? Driven yourself out of your comfort zone, pushing through the mud- grinding for grit’s sake. Have you rediscovered what you’re made of, lately? Have you uncovered value outside of money, clothes, and other materials things which hinder your potential?!

You should consider your Value only after you have fully constructed the puzzle of your life… each day reveals many new piece to choose from, whether we want another piece or not- our puzzles need some assembling in order to enjoy a complete life. One day you’ll get a chance to stand and admire your work with envy, wishing you could do it all over again.

There hangs your legacy- well framed for all to admire! But, that’s not your story… heck, that’s not my story. Only a few people on Earth get to relish that memento and you will be one of them, but first we have a few pieces to change around and a puzzle to construct!

How many pieces are leaving on the table… how many pieces are you trying to forget about- hoping that someone in your life will eventually pick up those pieces for you? Who do you expect to piece together your puzzle... Your children, your husband, your wife, mom, dad, a family member, a perfect stranger….? Perhaps you’re waiting for the pieces to assemble themselves! And like magic they will- Right?!

You might be wondering why the old pieces of your past just won’t fit into the new picture- the new life you have in-mind? Or, maybe you feeling overwhelmed by new pieces that are constantly thrown into the mix… “It doesn’t count if they weren’t in the box to begin with.” You say. Well, this kind of thinking is what got you mixed up to begin with.

And continuing to have your MindSET fixed, will rob you of new memories which could replace the old, “cobby”, memories. So keeping an opened mind means being open new experiences (FlexMinded), which really means being vulnerable. When you learn to live beyond insecurities you start replacing old, outdated, ideas with new and creative ones.

Never assume that if “it’s out of sight, it’s out of mind”, because you’ll create a trail of resentment, made of pieces which you never truly sifted through. This method creates mental and emotion clutter that will one day need to be clean out.

“How could I have let my life get cluttered with so many unnecessary pieces. I cant manage this mess on my own.”

Yes you can, and YOU must. Like I said earlier, nobody else can envision your puzzle. Only you can assemble it. People will always be there for you, but only until they are stricken with their own problems. So don’t RELY or DEPEND on people who are not able to understand. Like you, they too are overwhelmed. So keep an open mind.

You will get frustrated, as most do. Most of the time that frustration is directed towards those we love. We blame them for not knowing what’s best for us. Nothing seems to be working out, and you ignore “MURPHY’S LAW”. You assume that they cannot continue without you, but they will.

Even when nobody understands your hardships, you still have to pull through. This is when most people tend to take a back seat, trying to blend-in at Work, Home, Traffic, etc… this is when you go numb. You completely abandon your puzzle and start working on another. It becomes a pattern and ideas, as well as people, will come and go like the puzzles you leave behind.

Every day you fantasize about completing a puzzle you never work on. Your dreams become distractions, reminders of failed effort. Envision your life after the effort is applied and you will start laying pieces one day at a time.

We all grow from these stages in our lives. This growth process is better known as maturity. But do we really ever mature? I mean, do we really ever grow up? Or do we simply give in and get fed up with the challenge and stop trying altogether? Let’s start by acknowledging that failure is inevitable. We all fail! It a natural part of life and the growing pains that come along with it.

Failing is the best part, it the easiest part! Failure is a reminder that signals an opportunity to grow. Failure gives us direction; a way to go; an opportunity to fix a weakness. Otherwise you we remain blind. Fail towards greatness. Keep an open MindSET.

P.S.

If looking for good a book to read on the subject of MindSET*, read Mindset by Carol Dweck Ph.D.